Dar Al Iftaa publishes the book “Family guide for a stable life” .. and intends to distribute it to authorized persons to present it to the spouses .. and advises the “grooms”: Raise the value of marriage in your souls, so do not mention the word divorce ever
The Egyptian Dar Al-Iftaa published the book “Family guide for a stable life” in cooperation with the Ministry of Justice, and it covered all topics of interest to the Egyptian family.
Dar al-Iftaa intends to distribute the guide to legal officers at the level of the Republic to give it to spouses after the marriage contract. He also intends to turn the contents of the guide into training and rehabilitation programs for those about to get married, in addition to launching media campaigns to spread the aims of the guide, as well as publishing the contents of the book in the form of “posts” Through posts on social media platforms.
At the beginning of the book, I gave advice and guidance in the relationship between spouses, because Islamic law took into account the system of relations between a man and a woman according to the innate readiness and physical form of each of them, in order to restore the land and achieve the meaning of dwelling, love and mercy, while instilling a spirit of cooperation and participation for the benefit of both parties and for the benefit of the whole community, so it is in line with that. printing are in addition to the reasons of Sharia, as follows:
1. Marriage is a legal bond between a man and a woman and a strict alliance, based on love and mercy, with the aim of achieving stability, peace and harmony between them, and the survival of human offspring; Therefore, responsibility and fulfillment of rights and duties must be taken into account.
One of God’s blessings to man is that he allows him to marry; Where a person finds stability and calmness, satisfaction of feelings and achievement of integrity, the Most High said: “And from his family that he created for you from your soul. [الروم: 21]And this blessing requires gratitude, guarding it by fulfilling its rights and duties, and not being guided by what threatens its security and stability, in order to be able to raise generations for the benefit of the country and the people and be the cause of further progress, civilization, sophistication and prosperity.
2. Married life is housing and love before rights and duties.
Married life – before rights and duties – is a relationship based on adaptation, affection, tolerance and consent between spouses; To set the wheel of life in motion, Almighty God said: {And do not forget the best among you} [البقرة:237]It means that each of the spouses should influence his wife in some of his rights such as kindness and forgiveness in order to save the family from disintegration and loss, because keeping the family safe and stable is one of the purposes of Islam. of the law, and its stability is the joint responsibility of the spouses, so everything that helps the survival and stability of the family must be used by the spouses in their married life.
3. Each of you has rights over the other, so neither of you should get caught up in what you have and forget what you owe.
Marriage is the rights and duties shared by spouses. Allah Almighty said: [البقرة: 228]; This means: a woman has a right to her husband, just as a man has a right to his wife, so a husband must fulfill his wife’s psychological needs: such as restraint, respect, a sense of security and participation in thought, as well as financial needs: such as alimony, clothing, food, drink, etc., as well as social needs: such as being allowed to visit her parents and relatives, a woman must also consider her husband’s rights over her, such as obedience and good treatment, so that life between them would be correct and so that they would enjoy stability.
4. Your responsibility for the family is a legal duty, so each party should do what they owe to their spouse and children.
Spouses are responsible for everything related to the house, and it is not right for one of them to put the burden only on the other, but a spirit of sharing and cooperation should be established between them, so that the family intersects. to safety, and the children are brought up to cooperate. Our master, the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said : «كُلُّكُمْ رَاعٍ، وَكُلُّكُمْ مَسْؤولٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ، الإِمَامُ رَاعٍ وَمَسْؤولٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ، وَالرَّجُلُ رَاعٍ فِي أَهْلِهِ وَهُوَ مَسْؤُولٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّbojِghِ ، وَالمَرْأَةُ رَاعِيَةٌ فِي ب فِي بَيْbojِ زَوْجِهَا وَمَ< »
It is forbidden for a woman to play the role of a man in terms of alimony and the like, out of encroachment and belittling him, or for a man to play the role of a woman in order to avoid his original responsibilities and obligations of a woman. submission and coercion towards him, and this is not in the case of excuses, illness or the like.
5. Stay away from competition for family leadership, because each of you has your own work and duties to perform.
The relationship between the two of you must be based on love, cooperation, participation and support, and not on the dominance of one party over the other, so that the family is stable.” God Almighty said about believers: [الشورى: 38]There is no remorse of the one who asked for istihara, nor disappointment of the one who consulted, so each of the spouses must take care of what they have and what they owe, without excluding or oppressing the other, because exclusion and oppression lead to the loss of the family and its instability.
6. The partnership between spouses is one of the biggest factors in the success of their married life.
share among themselves; Carrying out his responsibility towards the family; So when each of you does what you owe to your family, the family will enjoy comfort, peace and stability.
7. Be enthusiastic about cooperating with each other and know that each of you complements the other’s shortcomings, and cooperation among you is a means of achieving affection and grace, helping each other to complete and fulfill their responsibilities and fill in their shortcomings, because cooperation is a means of complementing each other in order to the ship of life could sail safely and soothingly. .
8. The secret of marital happiness lies in the commitment of each spouse to the other.
Loyalty between spouses is through a number of things, the most important of which is: that each of them loves for his wife what he loves for himself, and that he gives precious and precious for his happiness and works for his own good. being, and to share hopes, dreams, joys and pains with him, as well as commitment to the sincerity of the hadith, keeping secrets and honesty before honor and money.
9. Tenderness and security are the basis of the relationship between spouses.
Spouses should feel tender and safe. Speaking and doing, and this is the practical application of the Supreme speaking:﴿ And from his time He created for you from your soul. [الروم: 21]Kindness and tenderness capture hearts, strengthen intimacy and establish love, in such a way as to achieve safety and security, so that the spouses mix and unite in building their family and supporting its pillars. A man should not say a word or do an act that causes his the woman feels fear of him or cruelty towards her, until she is safe alone and confident in her future.
10. Raise the value of marriage in your souls and never mention the word divorce, no matter how hard the quarrel between you.
Homes are not without conflicts, even if the times of cheerfulness are long. The conflict can sometimes intensify, so the wife asks her husband for a divorce, and some men can threaten their wives with divorce when she does something they don’t approve of, so the word divorce is never mentioned in the house. , neither when agreeing nor when disagreeing. And that the marriage alliance remains a rough and solemn vow in the souls, because the mention of the word divorce threatens the family with instability, insecurity and appeasement; A woman should never rush to seek a divorce, and it is never appropriate for a man to threaten his wife with divorce.
